This Too is a Gift

Sometimes, most times, I leave the place of prayer feeling empty. I leave having not felt the presence of God and having not heard his voice. For several reasons I am reluctant to say this out loud.

First, such a confession does not encourage others to pray, something Jesus taught His followers to do. I would hate to be the reason others stopped praying. Our culture, even in the church, is permeated with therapeutic values. We celebrate all the benefits of prayer: deliverance from burdens, sweet fellowship with Jesus, the cure for our loneliness. When therapeutic benefits are the main reason for praying, saying that prayer leaves me empty seems like heresy. Why even pray?

Second, my confession invites others to diagnose my spiritual malfunction and give advice. Some will see this as a bad case of walking by feelings and not faith. I will be accused of getting the train of faith out of order: fact, faith, feeling. And yet, their advice is often contradictory—if you had more faith, you would feel more of God’s presence and hear His voice more clearly, but don’t worry about feeling. Part of the trouble is that we have all these worship songs and many hymns about the friend we have in Jesus and how He walks with us and talks with us. Therefore, it seems, something in me must be broken or off the rails. Perhaps my caboose is in the weeds.  

Others will simply critique my technique and prescribe five steps to hearing the voice of God. These advisors assert that God is always speaking, but we just haven’t been taught to hear His voice. There are books on this. However, I check most of the boxes on these steps: time alone with God, a prayer journal, time letting God speak through His Word, and sensitivity to God speaking through nature, circumstances, and other people. So, now what?

More sympathetic folks might diagnose me as having a “dark night of the soul.” Recently, I burned journals full of prayers for my dead son, Peter. It was a black night. But the last five years of watching Peter struggle with sin, addiction, and Type-One “brittle” diabetes has been much darker. Years! It is terrible and sad to admit, things got slightly brighter when he died. But then Teckla was diagnosed with dementia, a new kind of enduring grief and darkness. “Night” hardly seems the right word here.

It is not that advice is unwelcome. When I imagine trying to pastor myself, I shudder. What counsel should or could I offer? What do say after you have checked the usual suspects off the list, but the person is still feeling empty? I certainly don’t want others to doubt the warm fellowship with God they are experiencing. I’m glad they are chatting with Jesus. Full is better than empty.

My emptiness, however, is not complete. My emptiness contains an ache for God and a hunger for His presence. I am not wrestling with questions that I am impatiently demanding God answer. I hunger for His voice. I long to hear His observations on my life. We could talk about the weather. Like the Psalmist says, “My heart and my flesh cry out for the living God.”

In church we celebrate this crying out without giving much thought or space to the emptiness from which it springs. We are quick to celebrate an answer to the cry, but struggle to validate the emptiness, the heart-broken longing, and the agony of separation—despite all the times these come up in the Psalms.

As I was talking to God about this emptiness, it occurred to me that even this emptiness is a gift. Some, at this point in my story, might be jumping up and down and saying, “Mark, that thought was God talking to you, you ninny!” Of course, you may be right.

A godward emptiness is certainly a gift when compared to the alternatives: apathy, despair, and bitterness. These are real and present dangers. Being like Job and not cursing God, however, will not make you an in-demand speaker at conferences. No one wants my book on five steps to spiritual emptiness and a hunger for God.

If this is a long dark night of the soul, I have lost hope that the dawn will break before I do. But I hold tightly to the hope of glory—when I see Jesus and become like Him. Until that day, I will treasure my emptiness—my heart’s cry for Jesus. This too is a gift.   

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Kicking Job Out of Church

I am convinced that anyone who speaks and acts like Job would be kicked out of most churches today—even those, perhaps especially those, that proclaim the Bible their authority. They might be right to do so.

He certainly is someone who should be kept away from new believers. Job is bitter. In fact, Job speaks of God as one who “has taken away my right, and the Almighty who has embittered my soul” (Job 27:2). He is so bitter that he wishes he had been “carried from the womb to the tomb” (Job 10:19) We would rebuke him for his bitterness and for blaming his bitterness on God. He is certainly disobeying Paul’s exhortation to “rejoice, always.”

It might be okay if Job would just shut up. Job refused to be quiet: “I loathe my life own life, I will give full vent to my complaint, I will speak the bitterness of my soul.” We would dread him sharing “what God has been doing” in his life. Let’s skip testimonies when Job comes to church! Give Job the suicide hotline number and send him on his way!

Lest we are tempted to correct and counsel Job, we should remember how terrible Job was to his friends. Job had an unteachable spirit. He calls his friends “worthless physicians and all their advice “proverbs of ashes” and “defenses of clay” Job 13:12. He declares, “Sorry comforters are you all. Is there no limit to your windy words” (Job 15:3)? Job is not open to all grief counsel they are ready to give.  

Job fails to testify to all the things we insist upon. He should be testifying to how all his troubles have improved his godly character. Instead, we find a guy wishing for death. He should also be testifying to how through it all God has been with him. Instead, he complains of God’s absence and silence: “Behold, I go forward, but He is not there, and backward, but I cannot perceive Him.” When he speaks of God’s friendship, it is in the past tense: “Oh that I were as in months gone by, when God watched over me. . . . when the friendship of God was over my tent.” Job would refuse to sing, “What a Friend We Have in Jesus.” He would embarrass us by just sitting in his pew and weeping. Job’s only achievement is blessing God instead of cursing Him.

Even more infuriating would be Job’s claim that he is blameless. Certainly, like Job’s friends, we would insist he must have done something wrong to bring about such devastating trouble. We would rebuke him for trying to justify himself before God. We would insist our righteousness (and especially Job’s righteousness) is like filthy rags before God. And, after all, don’t we all sin, in thought, word, and deed daily? Of course, we would have to ignore that it is God who first says Job is “blameless and upright.”

Job does repent, but only after God shows up and speaks to him. I have heard preachers say that it is okay to cry out to the lord like Job did. It is okay, they say, to be honest with God.But do we really want people talking like Job until God appears to them and lectures them? We would rebuke Job’s demand to see and hear God as a refusal to walk by faith, not sight. Job never repents, it seems, of what he said. But when he sees and hears God speak out of the whirlwind, Job repents of having said anything. Despite Job repenting, God rebukes three of Job’s friends “because you have not spoken of Me what is right as My servant Job has” Job 42:7.

I doubt that this declaration by God would keep us from kicking Job out, if only to protect the flock. We are now under a new covenant. Believers are filled with the Holy Spirit, a comforter better than Job’s. We live with the promise of Jesus that He will never leave us or forsake us. Like they say, if you are not as close to God as you used to be, guess who moved? Perhaps if we feel abandoned like Job, it is our fault. We now have the Scriptures which always speak to us and are for us the voice and revelation of God. We now walk by faith, not sight, so modern Jobs should shut up and just trust God.  

Perhaps we have the example of Job, so that we never have to follow his example. We never have to wish we had been a miscarriage, complain loudly to God, and demand God appear and answer our arguments. Maybe Job did all this, so we don’t have to. We can jump to the end of the book of Job and just be reassured that as with Job everything will work out in the end.

Despite all these excellent arguments for kicking Job out, we should give him a pew. We need to resist the temptation to recite the same old counsel—even though true—that life is hard, but God is good. It is okay for Job to ask why life is hard, to ask where the goodness of God appears in the deaths of our children and wife.

The real example to avoid is that of Job’s comforters who had all the answers. Until recently, most of my sympathies have been Job’s friends. I am by instinct a teacher and will be thinking of a verse before a person is done telling me their problem. Like Job’s comforters, many of have our pat answers for every question. If not, we can google it. Having “Jobs” in our flock may be a problem, but it is not as serious a problem as making them unwelcome. Most of us have been or will be Job at some point, so we need to make room for Job no matter how uncomfortable he makes us.  

God is not threatened by Job’s questions, nor ready to slap down those who ask them. More than the loss of everything else, Job mourns the absence of God. He longs to return to the days when “the friendship of God was over” his tent. May our pews be filled with all those who cry out for the friendship of God.

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Ari and Dead People

Ari has now been church enough to hear about the resurrection, but most of his questions come from visits to his Dad’s grave. Near Peter’s grave are the graves of my brother, Stanley, and my mother and father. Our hunt for their stones has become a tradition and sometimes a contest to see who can find them first.  

The other day Ari asked, “What happens when everyone comes back?”

  “When who comes back?”

“All the dead people.”

“You mean like your Daddy and Uncle Stanley?”

“Yes.”

“Well, they come back to the earth when Jesus returns, and we all live together with

  Jesus forever.”

       “But what happens to their stones?”

        “What do you mean?”

“Do they go scratch out everything on their stones?”

Ari’s last question left me without an answer. I just said, “That is an excellent question.” It is a question that makes an important point. Our funerals and our gravestones make us think of the person in their grave. Some people go to graves to talk to dead loved ones. Even those who scatter ashes often revisit the place where the ashes blew away. We sometimes refer to the grave as a person’s “final resting place.” But for believers, as Ari points out, there is nothing final about the grave.

Ari was trying to reconcile the gravestones with the resurrection. He was wondering how the stone would or should be rewritten after resurrection. Ari’s point is that the words on the gravestone are just the first draft. They are not the final word.

After our resurrection, we won’t need to revisit our graves and chisel our revisions. The graves stand only as markers of our journey, signs of the way we come. Rather than being the last words concerning us, they are the first words of what is truly life.  

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On Eating Small Children

Our desire to eat children is certainly a human oddity. It is commonly discovered in big bosomed aunts who see a baby or toddler and declare, “I could just gobble you up!” Fortunately, such declarations are usually only followed by smothering hugs, cheek pinches, and kisses.

Ari, our seven-year-old grandson, brought us a Valentine’s picture that said, “I love you to pieces.” This too is a frightening phrase if taken literally. But I think the expression flows from the same impulse as “I love you to death.” It is a love so strong that it borders on dangerous.

The desire to eat small children is healthy if rightly understood. It flows from an intoxication with their beauty, innocence, and vitality. Often old folks like me look wistfully at little tikes and wish for their boundless energy. When we see their innocent delight in the world bubble over, we long to drink that elixir.

Famously, Wordsworth declared children coming into the world from God “trailing clouds of glory.” Indeed, there is a fragrance of immortality about small children—something eternal and uncorrupted. Something we lose but hunger for all our lives.

When I see Ari asleep in his grandmother’s lap, his legs now sprawling and dangling nearly to the floor, I see what may be his last days of feeling completely safe. His sleep is undisturbed by fears of the future or mistakes of the past.

The desire to devour the goodness of children may, nonetheless, still seem terrible even if figurative, but consider the Eucharist where we eat the body of Christ and drink His blood. We desire to eat children for the same reason; we long to take into ourselves their vitality, innocence, beauty, and joy.

And like the Lord’s Supper, the impulse to eat children points us both backward and forward. First, it is a desire to recover what we once possessed as a child—innocence and goodness. It is also a longing for the safety and beauty of the garden before evil marred all things and alienated us from nature.

We desire to gobble up children also springs from our longing for the day when we are made new, and our broken bodies put on immortality. We look for a day when all God’s children are safely home—a day when we will play more than we pray.

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A Believing Wife

Teckla caught me writing this and said, “I am not worth writing about.” I will write about her anyway because there was a scene in the video series The Chosen that perfectly expressed why I love her so much and why I am so blessed to be married to her.

The video series The Chosen begins with the stories of each of the 12 apostles being called to follow Jesus. The writers try to imagine all the family and economic dynamics of each apostle saying yes to Jesus’s call. We have been watching the first season of The Chosen Thursday nights at the church.

Last week we watched the story of Peter being called. Peter’s call was accompanied by a miraculous catch of fish and the promise of Jesus that Peter would be made a fisher of men. The back story of Peter shows him facing a financial crisis because of the taxes he owes the Romans. So, the huge catch of fish that nearly sunk the boats was deliverance from an impending disaster of losing his boat and his home.

When Peter came to tell his wife about the miracle and about the call to follow the Messiah, he was both elated and worried. The good news was that all their taxes would be paid for by the huge catch of fish. The bad news was that he was giving up fishing to follow a rabbi called Jesus. He doesn’t know how his wife will respond.

Almost nothing is said about Peter’s wife in the Bible. We do know that Jesus healed Peter’s mother-in-law (Matthew 8:14). And Paul refers to other apostles, including Cephas (Peter), who take believing wives with them in their travels (I Corinthians 9:5). The writers for The Chosen do an excellent job of showing what Peter’s “believing wife” might have been like.

After hearing Peter’s news, his wife is at first speechless. Peter is apologetic. But then it becomes clear that she is over-joyed, and that her tears are tears of joy, not frustration. Peter is surprised but delighted. His wife rejoices that he is finally becoming the man God meant him to be. Peter thought he might be dragging her along behind him, but it turns out that she was ahead of him, leading the way with faith and joy.

This is the kind of wife Teckla has been. Often with trepidation I have said to Teckla that I think God is calling us to move here, go there, adopt these kids. I then ask her to pray and see if I have discerned God’s voice clearly, only to discover God has already spoken to her. In all my fumbling efforts to find and follow God’s leading, she has only responded with joy and faith—never grumbling and criticism.

When we moved to Myrtle Point to care for my mother after my Dad’s death, we left behind the first house we had bought. Teckla moved away from her many friends in Olathe and Kansas City. I was leaving a job without any promise of a job in Oregon. All of this was in response to my desire to honor my parents—the fifth commandment. Teckla and I had only had “our own house” for a year.  It was hard to give up, but Teckla never complained or moped; she embraced the adventure with love and grace.

I could give example after example of Teckla’s faith. She has given me the freedom to pursue God passionately, and in turn I have tried to free her to do the same. It is hard to explain how much joy such freedom brings. Even when I had led us into a literal wilderness, Teckla never grumbled. (I once got us lost in the Ozark National Forest in the middle of the summer).

Teckla believes in God. And despite all my faults and weaknesses, she has believed in me. Having such a believing wife makes me blessed beyond measure and the richest of men.  

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Grieving with Ari

I dreaded telling Ari that Pharaoh was gone. He knew we had been trying to find someone to adopt Pharaoh, but Ari did not know the lady was coming Tuesday afternoon. Ari had lost so much this last year. His dad had died, his Mom disappeared. And we are getting ready to move back to Kansas—the main reason we had to find a home for Pharaoh. So this summer Ari will lose a house and his friends.

I said, “Ari the lady from Creswell came to get Pharaoh today.” For a second, he was angry and groaned, “Paaa!” He then frowned and said, “I will miss him.”  When we came into the house, Ari went to the back porch to see if his dog was really gone.

The sun was shining, and it was about 56 out, so Ari and I went outside to play basketball. The gentle breeze carried the slight fragrance of early spring. We were playing horse, but Ari paused for moment and just dribbled the ball slowly while looking around. Then he stopped and quietly said, “I am happy, except for Pharaoh.”

The wise and gentle calm on his face and in his voice startled me. With grace and elegance, he showed me how to grieve without letting go of the beauty and goodness of life. Yes, it is true that after my “except” I have a longer list than just losing Pharaoh. Nonetheless, Ari’s approach to grief is right. It is, I am sure, a more profound insight into life than he realizes.

Nothing has healed my heart more than his winsome smile and wise words. And, of course, Ari made his shot.

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Washing the Trailblazer with Ari

Saturday the rain finally let up, and we had enough sun to wash the Trailblazer. Here in Myrtle Point if not washed regularly, your car will begin to grow lichen and moss, especially if parked under a myrtle tree. So we had our work cut out for us. Because I am short and the Trailblazer tall, I use a step ladder to reach the top. I put Ari to work on the lower places where you had to bend over to see the dirt and grime.

Ari was a hard worker, but he kept wanting to scrub the top where I was working. To reach the top, he opened one of the doors and stood on the seat. Of course, this let some water into the car, and he was only able to reach about six inches of the top. No matter how often I urged him to wash the lower sections within easy reach, he would soon drift upward to areas he could barely reach.  I had hoped to spare myself a sore back and the trouble of bending over to clean the stuff Ari could reach easily.

Because Ari kept working on what he could barely reach, he left streaks of grime. He was often trying to clean what he couldn’t see well. None of this bothered me much because the car eventually got clean—or at least cleaner, and I enjoy being with Ari.

However, I realized that I am probably much like Ari when working with God. I prefer to ignore the work right in front of me. I often want to do something higher, more important, exciting, and challenging. The result is, no doubt, is that the work right in front me goes undone and the loftier work is done poorly.

Sometimes I don’t take time to talk to a difficult neighbor but for hours will happily debate strategies for reaching the lost of Coos County. I will spend time reading books on the power of prayer instead of simply praying. I can stretch to grasp the lofty theological theories on the ontology of time but not take time to learn what a child can teach.

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Kansas City Prophets and Global Warming

During my years living in Olathe and Kansas City, I had a bird’s eye view of the prophetic movement in Kansas City. I got to see the good, the bad, and the merely confusing. As one deeply concerned about our stewardship of God’s creation, I have also followed, as much an English teacher can, the science surrounding global warming. My approach to the first has helped me with the second.

It may seem absurd to connect prophets of global warming and the prophets of revival, but there are similarities. Both predict some future events and both call for policy and lifestyle changes in response to those predictions. We could add that both have their doubters and critics and both have acted in ways that fuel that criticism.

First, let me say I believe that God is restoring the ministry of the prophet to churches today. I have seen this ministry greatly bless people, and I have seen the church strengthened by it. However, I have also seen people wounded and disillusioned when prophets have fallen into sin or when it seemed that the prophetic was exploited to build a ministry.

I have now lived 30 years in splendid isolation in Myrtle Point, Oregon, so I have had both the time and distance to evaluate my experience with the prophetic in Kansas City. As I have sorted this all out, I have learned to value and nourish everything imparted to me at Kansas City that should be a permanent part of every Christian’s walk with God.

The prophecies of an end time revival that will restore the Bride of Christ to power and purity still call me to be a faithful intercessor for the church. The vision of visitations of God that transform cities and nations still brings me to my knees for Myrtle Point. Even more important, the truth that God desires us to co-labor with Him to accomplish his purposes has awakened my heart to listen to God and discern his working in the earth. Because of my time in Kansas City, my walk with God is less about me and my plans and more about God and His work.

I have, however, let go of all timetables for revival and God’s working. I remember in the 80’s when prophets were proclaiming the move of God coming in the 90’s. And indeed there were times of refreshing, but nothing like the nation-changing, stadium-filling outpourings that had been prophesied. And yes, I think those given spiritual oversight of the prophets and the prophets themselves should be held accountable for every prophecy. There was and is work to do here as every detail of every prophecy is evaluated. That, however, is not work I can do from my position. What I can do is value and live out those permanently valuable truths imparted to me by the prophetic ministry.

I have a similar approach to global warming. I know that some of the scientists in England tried to manipulate the data. I know that some of the predictions haven’t come true and there is controversy about some of science. We have mixed phenomena: the Arctic ice-cap is melting, the one in Antarctica growing. And some of the scientists have displayed real arrogance in their proclamations.

Yet, no matter how much fracking we do, oil and natural gas remain non-renewal fuels. When they are gone, they are gone. That reality should impact our policies and our lifestyles. There is absolutely nothing Christian about consuming a finite fuel supply as quickly as possible. There is nothing conservative about making major changes to our atmosphere and thinking that somehow human genius will help us escape the consequences.

At the risk of stating the obvious, conservatives should conserve. Christian conservatives should be humble and cautious about making changes in the complex ecosystem God has created. The arrogant assumption that human genius will deliver us from consequences of every assault on our environment is neither Christian nor conservative.

I do not know if all the predictions of global warming will come true or fall into the dustbin of bad science like the predictions of global cooling popular in the 70’s, but I do know it makes sense to pursue alternative sources of energy. It also makes sense for us to reduce pollution and greenhouse gases. We should always live a simple lifestyles driven less by mindless consumption of fossil fuels.

If I never see a mighty move of God that revives the church and sweeps many into the kingdom of God, I will never regret the time spent praying for one. I believe those hours are precious in God’s sight and that such intercession is simple obedience to Scripture. If no climatic catastrophe attached to global warming ever occurs, I think we will never regret polluting less, consuming less, and conserving more.

There are those called to sort out the prophecies and the science. All of that is important. No matter the timetable, Christ is coming back for a bride that is spotless and without wrinkle, so the church needs help from heaven. And no matter the timetable, pollution has consequences, and finite resources will be exhausted. Specific predictions may be inaccurate. But we are foolish if we fail to recognize the larger inescapable truths. God calls us to be faithful stewards of the planet and faithful intercessors for the Church

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Mowing with Ari

Ari and I mowed the lawn yesterday. We have had weeks of rain and high humidity. The grass here near the coast of Oregon grows even in the winter. Our grass was tall and tangled, and even though it had not rained for a day, it was covered with dew. The wet grass quickly made the bag heavy and the mower hard to push.

Our grandson, Ari, age seven, asked if he could help. My first answer was “No”, but he kept asking so I relented despite the difficulties. His first assignment was to move the toys, chairs, and soccer net off the grass so I could mow. Soon, however, he was asking to push the mower. The bag was nearly full, so he was unable to move the mower no matter how hard he pushed. I reached around from behind with one hand and gave him a little help. With three hands, we mowed a crooked swath through the lawn. When it came time to mow the front, I invited him to mow the slightly sloping lawn where the grass was shorter. He worked hard, even pushing the mower back up the incline, but he was soon tired and went off to ride his bike.

To be honest, I could have finished sooner if Ari had not helped. He struggled to mow in straight lines, so I had to go back over some of the places he missed. And in the growing dusk, it was hard to see every missed strip, so today the lawn looks a little ragged. But Ari was delighted that he and grandpa had mowed the lawn together.

I think this story explains a lot of the raggedness of the church. God has invited all of us to work with him, but we are much like Ari—not quite strong enough, not quite steady enough.  We often need a third hand on the mower. Sometimes the lines are crooked no matter how hard we try to go straight. And certainly, God could do much of His work better and faster without us.

The real job yesterday was not about the lawn. It was about Ari and I spending time together. It was about Ari learning and growing. It was sweat on my wrinkles and sweat on his freckles. It was about love.

The same is true of God’s work with us. Certainly, the work of the kingdom is important, but even more important is working together with our heavenly Father. Jesus said that He did whatever he saw His father doing (John 5:19). In the life Jesus, we see His disciples mow a crooked line, get rebuked for unbelief, and get confronted about their pride. Yet again and again Jesus invites them to help.

We must be patient with the raggedness of the church. Like good parents, pastors must resist the temptation to do everything themselves. And when we see that growing in relationship and maturity is the real point, we should be quick to ask God, “Can I help?” We can trust that when things won’t move, a third hand on the mower will get things going.

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The Wounded Healer: Limping into 2024

How do we help others heal when we are deeply wounded? Where do we find the strength and the heart to help others when our own wounds still cry out? I think the longer one has lived the more likely it is that they are called to be wounded healers. Answering the call isn’t easy or inevitable. Even if we avoid the temptation to become bitter or quit and withdraw, even if we draw close to God and open our hearts, our wounds can easily sideline us.

Perhaps the cruelest taunt that stops us is like the one Jesus faced on the cross: “You saved others, but you can’t save yourself.” For me the accusation is “You failed to help your son, Peter, what makes you think you can help anyone else?” As with many pastors whose children wander from or rebel against God, my failure to persuade all my kids to love Jesus feels like a disqualification. How can God use me to proclaim the good news if I have failed with my own family? I feel this keenly when I stand behind the pulpit.

Preaching on the story of Jacob this last Sunday has helped me. After twenty years away from home and working for his uncle, Laban, Jacob is told by God to head home. Awaiting him, however, is his brother Esau, who years ago swore to kill Jacob for stealing his blessing from Isaac. Although God had enriched Jacob during his years serving Laban, he must now face Esau and his four-hundred armed men. The night before meeting Esau Jacob wrestles with an angel.

The story of Jacob wrestling with the angel cannot be hammered into any of neat theological box. Some see this wrestling as Jacob resisting God. But Genesis says the result of his wrestling is the angel blessing him. It is hard to understand why or how resisting God would result in a blessing. Perhaps the greatest blessing comes when Jacob realizes the angel is God and he “has seen God face to face” (Genesis 32:30).

Even after the angel touches him and dislocates his hip, Jacob refuses to let go. Peter, in the weeks before he died, had become so frail that his hip popped out of the socket. The pain was excruciating. Jacob was holding onto the angel—to God—even through terrible pain. The angel blesses Jacob and declares, “Your name shall no longer be Jacob, but Israel for you have striven with God and with men and have prevailed” (Genesis 32:28). I suspect the angel dislocated his hip to let him know that the blessing flowed from God’s grace, not Jacob’s strength or skill as a wrestler.

Jacob limps toward his dreaded meeting with his brother Esau. Before him, Jacob had sent extravagant gifts of hundreds of goats, sheep, and cows. Jacob had worked an extra six years for Laban to acquire all this wealth and herds, so it had to be hard to give them to Esau. He then sends his wives and their children before him—making himself completely vulnerable to Esau. Before standing face to face with Esau, Jacob bowed to the ground seven times. Then “Esau ran to meet him and embraced him, and fell on his neck, and kissed him, and they wept.”

We are not told what changed Esau’s heart, but it is clear Jacob did all he knew to do heal the relationship he had broken. Jacob gave all he could, made himself completely vulnerable, and had the courage to face Esau even though limping.It is perhaps likely that God went before Jacob and softened the heart of Esau.

So what does it mean for us, like Jacob, to be wounded healers? First, through all our pain and dislocated hearts, we hold onto God and His promises. We cling to God until we are changed, until we are blessed. We hold onto God when we think we can’t go on and see no way forward. We wrestle until dawn.

Second, we become humble enough to heal all our relationships. Our hearts are made tender, and we begin to value relationships more than our own rights. We become those peacemakers Jesus called blessed. We see others differently. Even though Esau tells Jacob that he doesn’t need the gifts he has given, Jacob asks him to keep them “for I see your face one sees the face of God.” After having wrestled with God and seen Him “face to face,” Jacob sees Esau differently—sees him with the same joy he saw God.

Last, wounded healers refuse to be disqualified by their wounds. Jacob doesn’t just limp to meet Esau. He limps into the covenant promises given to Abraham and Isaac.  We know God blesses and uses the wounded. We know, as Paul was told, that God’s power is perfected in weakness. We trust in God, not our own strength or wisdom. Without pride or ambition, we bow before our brothers.

Like Jacob limping into the promised land, we limp toward Jesus by whose wounds we are finally healed.

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