{"id":1330,"date":"2023-07-07T15:36:20","date_gmt":"2023-07-07T22:36:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marksletters.com\/?p=1330"},"modified":"2023-07-07T15:36:24","modified_gmt":"2023-07-07T22:36:24","slug":"can-we-dig-him-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marksletters.com\/?p=1330","title":{"rendered":"Can We Dig Him Up?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Ari asked this as we stood at the edge of his Daddy\u2019s grave.<\/strong> Peter\u2019s gravestone had not yet been placed, but I knew he had been buried right next to my brother, Stanley. This was the second time Ari had asked. Several weeks ago, Ari asked, \u201cIs it legal for us to go dig up dead people? Can we dig up my daddy, your mommy and daddy and give them hugs?\u201d I explained the whole thing about the body being in the grave and the spirit being with Jesus, but it is a lot for even an adult to grasp, let alone a six-year-old. \u00a0I also assured him that digging up dead people was not legal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ari\u2019s question is a good one<\/strong>. Despite all our talk of death being a natural part of life, death feels wrong. The loss of those we love remains a tragedy, and death, an enemy. I still miss my mother and father. I have especially missed having them pray for me and my family in the midst of heartbreak. I miss their wise counsel and deep compassion. \u00a0When I see a new bird or unusual butterfly, I miss being able to share that with my oldest brother, Stanley. It all feels wrong. And it is. Like Ari says, we should be able to hug them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Scripture is on Ari\u2019s side.<\/strong> Paul makes clear that death is a result of sin (Romans 5:17). In I Corinthians 15:26 Paul declares, \u201cThe last enemy that will be abolished is death.\u201d Death is an enemy\u2014 and not an enemy we are commanded to love. We were created to be eternal. Love is made to endure. We should not comfort the grieving with assurances that death is natural and, as Disney preaches, is part of the great circle of life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here in Oregon the push to celebrate death as a natural part of life is especially strong and widespread.<\/strong> It is driven by a concern for the environment and our healthy celebration of nature. Oregon is offering more ways to compost the body or even wrap our remains in the roots of tree-ball, so we \u201clive again\u201d through the tree\u2019s growth. I don\u2019t object to any of these practices, and I think it wise not to plant people filled with toxic embalming fluids. But none of this should diminish our instinctive conviction that death is wrong and an enemy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even though believers are not comforted by the naturalness of death, we are not without comfort<\/strong>. As believers in Jesus, we believe not only in resurrection but in reunion. Recently, Ari and I sat together in our little leaky hot tub talking theology. It is one of the few times he is still enough for a conversation. Ari asked me when he would see his daddy again. I explained that when we die, we go to be with Jesus and that I believed his daddy was with Jesus. His response was, \u201cI want to die, so I can go see my daddy.\u201d I said, \u201cMe too!\u201d However, I went on to say when we die is up to God.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ari got excited and his eyes big when I explained that someday Jesus was going to return with all those who had believed in him and that we would all be together.<\/strong> On that day, I explained, God would make all wrong things right and all ugly things, beautiful. On that day all death would end and there would be hugs. With some sadness and a lot of wisdom, Ari said, \u201cI want that to happen soon.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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