{"id":1366,"date":"2024-01-24T16:24:39","date_gmt":"2024-01-25T00:24:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marksletters.com\/?p=1366"},"modified":"2024-01-24T16:24:42","modified_gmt":"2024-01-25T00:24:42","slug":"the-wounded-healer-limping-into-2024","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marksletters.com\/?p=1366","title":{"rendered":"The Wounded Healer: Limping into 2024"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

How do we help others heal when we are deeply wounded?<\/strong> Where do we find the strength and the heart to help others when our own wounds still cry out? I think the longer one has lived the more likely it is that they are called to be wounded healers. Answering the call isn\u2019t easy or inevitable. Even if we avoid the temptation to become bitter or quit and withdraw, even if we draw close to God and open our hearts, our wounds can easily sideline us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perhaps the cruelest taunt that stops us is like the one Jesus faced on the cross: \u201cYou saved others, but you can\u2019t save yourself.\u201d<\/strong> For me the accusation is \u201cYou failed to help your son, Peter, what makes you think you can help anyone else?\u201d As with many pastors whose children wander from or rebel against God, my failure to persuade all my kids to love Jesus feels like a disqualification. How can God use me to proclaim the good news if I have failed with my own family? I feel this keenly when I stand behind the pulpit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Preaching on the story of Jacob this last Sunday has helped me.<\/strong> After twenty years away from home and working for his uncle, Laban, Jacob is told by God to head home. Awaiting him, however, is his brother Esau, who years ago swore to kill Jacob for stealing his blessing from Isaac. Although God had enriched Jacob during his years serving Laban, he must now face Esau and his four-hundred armed men. The night before meeting Esau Jacob wrestles with an angel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The story of Jacob wrestling with the angel cannot be hammered into any of neat theological box.<\/strong> Some see this wrestling as Jacob resisting God. But Genesis says the result of his wrestling is the angel blessing him. It is hard to understand why or how resisting God would result in a blessing. Perhaps the greatest blessing comes when Jacob realizes the angel is God and he \u201chas seen God face to face\u201d (Genesis 32:30).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even after the angel touches him and dislocates his hip, Jacob refuses to let go<\/strong>. Peter, in the weeks before he died, had become so frail that his hip popped out of the socket. The pain was excruciating. Jacob was holding onto the angel\u2014to God\u2014even through terrible pain. The angel blesses Jacob and declares, \u201cYour name shall no longer be Jacob, but Israel for you have striven with God and with men and have prevailed\u201d (Genesis 32:28). I suspect the angel dislocated his hip to let him know that the blessing flowed from God\u2019s grace, not Jacob\u2019s strength or skill as a wrestler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jacob limps toward his dreaded meeting with his brother Esau. <\/strong>Before him, Jacob had sent extravagant gifts of hundreds of goats, sheep, and cows. Jacob had worked an extra six years for Laban to acquire all this wealth and herds, so it had to be hard to give them to Esau. He then sends his wives and their children before him\u2014making himself completely vulnerable to Esau. Before standing face to face with Esau, Jacob bowed to the ground seven times. Then \u201cEsau ran to meet him and embraced him, and fell on his neck, and kissed him, and they wept.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are not told what changed Esau\u2019s heart, but it is clear Jacob did all he knew to do heal the relationship he had broken. <\/strong>Jacob gave all he could, made himself completely vulnerable, and had the courage to face Esau even though limping.It is perhaps likely that God went before Jacob and softened the heart of Esau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So what does it mean for us, like Jacob, to be wounded healers? <\/strong>First, through all our pain and dislocated hearts, we hold onto God and His promises. We cling to God until we are changed, until we are blessed. We hold onto God when we think we can\u2019t go on and see no way forward. We wrestle until dawn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Second, we become humble enough to heal all our relationships<\/strong>. Our hearts are made tender, and we begin to value relationships more than our own rights. We become those peacemakers Jesus called blessed. We see others differently. Even though Esau tells Jacob that he doesn\u2019t need the gifts he has given, Jacob asks him to keep them \u201cfor I see your face one sees the face of God.\u201d After having wrestled with God and seen Him \u201cface to face,\u201d Jacob sees Esau differently\u2014sees him with the same joy he saw God.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Last, wounded healers refuse to be disqualified by their wounds.<\/strong> Jacob doesn\u2019t just limp to meet Esau. He limps into the covenant promises given to Abraham and Isaac. \u00a0We know God blesses and uses the wounded. We know, as Paul was told, that God\u2019s power is perfected in weakness. We trust in God, not our own strength or wisdom. Without pride or ambition, we bow before our brothers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like Jacob limping into the promised land, we limp toward Jesus by whose wounds we are finally healed.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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